Talking is powerful. Sharing our worries, unpacking feelings, and processing experiences—it helps us feel seen, heard, and lighter. Yet, sometimes talking alone only scratches the surface. Patterns, limiting beliefs, and old blocks often live beyond the mind, in the body and subconscious. And when that happens, deeper work is needed.
I feel honoured and blessed to witness these shifts in my practice here in Abergavenny, where clients move from understanding to transformation. One session last week beautifully illustrated this.
The Value of Talking
Talking is healing. It validates our experience, gives clarity, and can lift weight off our shoulders. It’s the foundation for change.
But there are times when patterns linger. Even after counselling, therapy, or reflection, some blocks remain—stored in the body, emotions, and subconscious. Talking can explain these blocks, but it often cannot dissolve them.
When Talking Reaches Its Edge
My client came after years of counselling. She understood her challenges, yet felt stuck, particularly in her professional life. Her dream job seemed impossible, while her current work felt heavy, forced, and joyless. She had begun exploring her dream career once a week, out of hours, but change felt blocked.
This is where talking had done its part—it helped her name the dissatisfaction. But deeper exploration was needed to unlock real movement.
Listening Beyond the Mind
We began with talking, but soon shifted. I opened a sacred space for healing, slowing both our bodies and minds. We grounded into the body, connected with the Earth, and gently turned inward—listening to what her body had to say rather than staying in the mind.
Through somatic awareness, her inner experience emerged vividly:
- Heaviness in the shoulders—the weight of old beliefs
- “Crusty plate” around the heart—shame and duty hardened into protection
- Heavy, immobile legs—mirroring her inability to move forward
We welcomed these sensations, amplified them, and allowed the subconscious to speak. The root of her block became clear: “I don’t deserve.” This belief had formed in childhood, tied to caring for a sibling and her mother at the cost of herself.
Sound, Ritual, and Reclaiming Power
Next, we moved to the massage table, where tuning forks and singing bowls became bridges for deeper release. Her body was heavy, movements slow, tears came. In this altered state, the full release unfolded.
The breakthrough deepened when she linked her current work struggles to her childhood belief. I guided her to visualise her dream job, initially reluctant, then gradually embracing the details. Tears surfaced, soft words emerged: “I don’t deserve this.”
We closed with a ritual to reclaim her power. Still supported by sound, she visualised cutting ties with old guilt and shame, reclaiming sovereignty in her own way. By the end, she felt lighter, softer, and more spacious, a palpable shift that created room for her next steps.
Integration: A Journey at Her Own Pace
Transformation is a process, guided by the client’s pace. One session doesn’t complete the journey. But creating space, clarity, and inner permission allows real movement. Talking had been the doorway; somatic work, subconscious exploration, sound, and ritual were the path through it.
Takeaway: Talking Is Just the Beginning
Talking is beautiful, necessary, and life-affirming. But some blocks require embodied attention, subconscious exploration, and ritual to release fully. Real change is felt, experienced, and reclaimed—not just understood.
If you’ve ever felt stuck despite knowing your patterns, know this: there is more depth waiting. And sometimes, stepping beyond talking opens the way to true liberation.
If you feel curious about exploring what lies beneath talking, or wonder how old patterns and beliefs might be held in your body and subconscious, you might consider experiencing this kind of work in Abergavenny.
Every session is held at your pace, with tools like somatic awareness, sound, and ritual to create space, clarity, and empowerment. It’s not about rushing to “fix” anything—it’s about listening, feeling, and reclaiming your own power.
Sometimes, the next step beyond talking is all it takes to begin a real shift.